How To Heal From A Divorce or A Relationship Breakup by Lady Charmaine Day

Healing From Divorce or a relationship breakup: One of the most sacred things a man and woman can do is to make a vow to God to spend the rest of their lives together. Usually this is done in front of family and friends and those same people over time come to see the couple as one unit. Divorce is one of the most traumatic experiences you can go through and it is a process that one must be healed from. When you are in a long term relationship and that relationship ends, the same healing must also take place. In order to heal from a divorce or breakup, you must first realize that you are not a failure. Just because the relationship did not work out this does not mean you failed at something or are incapable of sustaining a lasting relationship. No, it simply means that one of you had hardening of heart and that the person no longer felt that they could uphold their commitment to you or to God. When the person leaves and you are in the process of going for a divorce or breaking up with you,you will notice that people will treat you differently. If you had a lot of couple friends, those friends may pull away and you may also witness people in your neighborhood treating you differently because you are now a divorced or single person. So you may feel a sense of isolation. This is a typical situation many divorce and single people find themselves in. When this happens, don’t allow yourself to be isolated. Reach out to friends and family. Join volunteer groups and go out to social activities to be around people. In addition change your home environment. Whether you are remaining in the home that you shared with your ex-spouse or partner or are moving to a new location, make sure that your home reflects what makes you happy and gives you a feeling of having your very own heaven on earth. Paint, decorate, splurge for new comforters and linens, throw out things that are painful and remind you of your past and keep those things that bring you joy. And lastly, this is the time to begin a love affair with yourself. Yes, a love affair, where you discover new things about yourself to love and like. You explore new heights your body can take you physically by exercising, doing physical activity like walking or bicycling or bowling and you discover new ways your mind can explore and be creative. This is the time to let the artistic side of you out. Paint, draw, take pictures, write poems, write a book, reflect but use your mind and body to take yourself to a new level. Now that you are single what you need to do is always be able to keep yourself occupied and happy. Walk with your camera, journal, pen, and business cards. Be ready to meet new people and to reflect, create and relate to others and you will be very successful during this transition time. And lastly but most importantly, taking care of your spiritual life is of upmost importance. Make sure you are taking time to pray and to read your Bible. Often times, people feel like they let God down by not being married or in a relationship. No, God doesn’t want you to be in a relationship where you are not experiencing love and are being abused. No where does it say that you are signing up for a life of misery and abuse. So go to your heavenly father in prayer and praise that he allowed you to be removed from an unhealthy situation and he is giving you a new life where you will be blessed with more love, joy, happiness, peace and prosperity. Make sure you make quality time each day with Jesus and your heavenly father, the holy spirit and the Bible and you will reclaim a peace that surpasses all understanding.

Lady Charmaine Day
Pastor, Unlimited Help On-line Ministry
www.ladycharmaineday.com