For my entire childhood,teenage years,twenties and early thirties, I did not understand Martin Luther King Jr. I could not understand how he was able to so calmly, professionally and smoothly maintain a stance of non-violence in the direct light of violence against himself, the people following him and his family.It wasn't until I casually said to someone when I was angry the following statement did I realize what he was doing. I was working as the head of human resources in a very unprofessional environment. One of my co-workers who was pregnant was harassed by a couple of workers on the job. One of the people who stressed her out I walked up to and I said in a very calm voice "I feel sorry for you.I am going to pray for you. I am going to pray that the God I serve avenge me in this situation. I pray that you never feel a day a peace until you apologize to this woman sincerely and leave her alone. And I pray that you never forget this lesson and change your wicked ways." The woman just started to shake. She said "Ms. Day, Ms. Day please stop. Please don't pray. Please don't pray." I walked away.
I went back to my office. I sat down. Then people came running into my office asking me what did I do to her. I said nothing. I said I would pray for her to change her wicked ways. They said the woman was admitted into the emergency room screaming and seizuring.
That made me think. I got really scared. Up until this point I never saw a direct correlation between silent protest for justice, and the power of prayer. I was humbled by it.
From that day forward I promised to watch my words.
And to be careful about my prayers, God listens.
I knew that God sees me, hears me and does take action when it comes to me.
I know he does that for me and he does that and more for you.
Today, I am more mature in my walk as a Christian. I wouldn't walk up to someone and tell them I am praying for them. I would just pray silently for God to intervene in the situation, take away my anger and for the best outcome to happen. And then I show up, without stress, worry or concern and let God handle the rest. People have seen other people yell and scream at me and me not raise my voice. React. I hear them out. Then I patiently respond and remain professional. People ask me don't I feel weak? Don't I get angry? Don't I want to punch the person in the face? And I say to them, I am not in charge of this situation, God is. God has never failed me and he will avenge me in this situation. And you will see it. And sure as my legal maiden name is Charmaine Day justice comes to pass.
So if you find yourself in the midst of a situation where someone is attacking you, don't think that there isn't power in prayer. Your prayer is the most powerful weapon that you can evoke. Its power reaches beyond this situation and sometimes generations in terms of outcomes. You are not a victim but victorious.
On another note of silent protest, I am boycotting the NFL by not watching any football games or sports commentary on football because the NFL owners have not hired Colin Kaepernick because of his silent protest against police brutality and racism. I realized that right now I am witnessing a man who took a righteous stand be persecuted as a result. That's not right. I will continue to boycott until Colin Kaepernick is gainfully employed as a quarterback in the NFL.
I am praying for Colin's protest against police brutality and racism to bring changes in America.
Colin Kaepernick is our generations Muhammad Ali.

There is power in prayer.
There is power in silent protest.

I wrote this in September 2017. Three years later Colin still is unemployed by the NFL and I am still boycotting the NFL. Colin Kaepernick has become a symbol and leader for ending racism and police brutality. Today, May 2020 we are in the middle of a pandemic and the one thing occurring is more and more police brutality against African Americans. George Floyd lost his life. And that was the straw that broke our collective backs.
Feelings of anger, rage, anxiety, and a deep exhaustion that this exists is felt by all. Riots, national guard, curfews on top of being told to stay home to stay healthy.
You may wonder what can I do? Pray. Be non-violent. Use the power of your vote and where you choose to spend your money, time and resources to make changes occur. Be the change you want to see occur. Use the power of prayer, vote and personal choice to influence this crisis. Spend on purpose with a purpose. Vote for people who will make change occur and will fight to end systematic racism.
If you know an institution is racist, like the NFL, boycott them. Don't spend your money with them. Don't watch their programs. Vote. Pray. Use your mind to fight this fight. In all things remember God is in control. Pray to him.
After 3 years, I still believe there is power in silent protest. I still believe in the power of prayer and personal choice to make change occur.
My prayer for today is that you and your family remain healthy, safe, and come to a place of peace in the midst of this crisis in the name of Jesus Christ according to Luke 1:37 "for with God nothing shall be impossible!" Amen
Until next time, take care of yourself and stay special!!!
Sincerely your pastor,
#LadyCharmaineDay
Pastor, Unlimited Help Online Ministry
www.ladycharmaineday.com

Hello Beautiful!!!
Thank God It's Friday!!!
Earlier this month I was honored to be a featured speaker on
NAMI NYS's Video Show Perspectives
with host, my good friend Matthew Shapiro
talking about the covid crisis and ways to cope.
Thank you soooooo much Matthew for having me on your show.
This was the 30 minutes interview that was full of ways to help you stay healthy and positive throughout the trauma of this crisis. Please show your support and watch this 30 minutes video at your convenience.
Here is the official announcement :
For the latest episode of Perspectives we are joined by Lady Charmaine Day. Lady Charmaine is a prominent member of the NAMI-NYS family as she is a state trainer for the In Our Own Voice program, and she has also distinguished herself as a leading presenter. Lady Charmaine is also an author, Pastor of the Unlimited Help Online Ministry and host of the Taboo Talk Radio Show. In this insightful episode Lady Charmaine details her mission to help others learn to love themselves and how that started with her finding her voice. Lady Charmaine, who received the 2015 NAMI-NYS Media award, reflects on her journey of projecting her voice over different media platforms. Lady Charmaine also encourages others to use their voices to break down the walls that keep people from supporting each other. Follow Lady Charmaine Day at: www.ladycharmaineday.com

​I pray that you are having a good Day and that God blesses you with a phenomenal weekend filled with God's grace, mercy, favor, good health, prosperity and peace of mind in the name of Jesus Christ according to Luke 1:37"for with God nothing shall be impossible!!!" Amen
Sending you love from my side of the world. Until next time, take care of yourself and stay special!!!
Sincerely Your Pastor,
#LadyCharmaineDay
Pastor, Unlimited Help Online Ministry
www.ladycharmaineday.com
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Hello Beautiful!!!!
Peace of mind is priceless!!! To get peace of mind you have to forgive all. How many times do you forgive someone? Especially after they have hurt you or let you down? How many times has God forgiven you? It is easy to say but hard to do. Forgive. Yet it is the single most important lesson we have to master as humans.
Hurt is passed on. Hurt people hurt people. You need to mourn things in order to move on. We tend to bury our pain versus dealing with it. We tend to give, be strong for everyone and afraid to show our weaknesses to people. Giving and doing for everyone else sometimes is a mask we put on. Not facing your own pain will make you self medicate. Putting the mask on takes energy. The mask can function even when you are in pain. The key to healing. Admit you are in pain. Face what has hurt you. Forgive the person and yourself for your role in it. Then choose to move pass it. Ask God to heal your body, mind and spirit from the trauma you have suffered. Accept his healing. Accept your forgiveness. And begin to build a new life. One that is not focused on the pain you have bared but one focused on the happy life you want to live and what that looks like for you.


By practicing forgiveness you are choosing to be healthy and happy.
Because note to self, the person(s) that hurt you is not thinking about you and what they did to you. They have moved on.
So let go and let God. Choose to forgive and choose to be healthy, and happy.
How do you do it? How do you be the bigger person? How do you turn the other cheek? In your own strength, it can be hard, but if you ask God to help you and you BELIEVE that God has helped you to forgive others, it becomes easy to pick up the phone and speak first. Or to be there for that person even though in the past they have hurt you. When asked how many times to forgive someone, Jesus said 77x7. Huge number. Is there someone in your life you need to forgive? Don't let another moment go by. Forgive them. Pray to God and forgive them. And move on.
Because when you forgive and truly let go and let God you will experience peace of mind that surpasses all understanding. A peace that you so dearly deserve to have.
So get it.
Let go and let God!!!
Excerpt from Cyber Hustle book. Please show your support and get your copy today at
www.ladycharmaineday.com/store/p31/Cyber_Hustle_by_Lady_Charmaine_Day.html,
​on Amazon and on Barnes and Noble.
Until next time, take care of yourself and stay special!!!
#LadyCharmaineDay
Pastor, Unlimited Help Online Ministry
www.ladycharmaineday.com​

In recognition of Mental Health Awareness month, I am dedicating this blog to my #1 Coping Strategy for good mental health and recovery: Loving and liking yourself. Practice self-care and self-love.

Excerpt from my book Cyber Hustle:

You may wonder, why was I born? What am I to do with the life I have been given. When Jesus Christ was on this Earth, he answered these questions when he was asked what is the most important commandment that we should follow?

According to Mark 12:29-31,The most important one, answered Jesus, is this: Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one.Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.The second is this: Love your neighbor as yourself.There is no commandment greater than these.

So first, we should love God with all are heart, soul, mind and strength and second we should love our neighbor as we love ourselves.

I want to focus the rest of this formula on the importance of loving yourself. Jesus commanded us to love our neighbor as we love ourselves. But you can not love anyone if you do not first love yourself. The question for today is do you love yourself and are you taking care of yourself in the best manner possible?

I want to begin by telling you that you are special and divinely made. You were created by God. And that YOU ARE LOVABLE and GOD LOVES YOU! How do I know this? I know this because of what it says in Psalms 139:13-16. According to Psalms 139:13-16For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mothers womb.I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful,I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.

If God loving put you together, you know that you are not a mistake, you were made on purpose. God created you so that your body could be the temple of God.You are special. Special enough to be formed by God himself. Therefore you are lovable and God loves you.

Your body is the temple of God. Did you know your body is the temple of God? According to I Corinthians 6:19-20: Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.

Your body is the first gift God gave you. How are you treating your body? Are you honoring and taking care of it like the precious gift God has given you? Are you giving your body the proper nutrients, exercise and rest it requires? Are you taking care of your body the best way possible? Church. We treat the physical building of church how we should treat our bodies. We respect, honor and clean our churches to make sure it is an excellent representation of God when in fact our bodies are the temple of God. You would never think to fill up a church with junk and debris yet we constantly put junk and garbage in our bodies! As Romans 12:1 says "Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of Gods mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship." I urge you today to begin to honor your body, the temple of God, by treating it right. By right I mean eating good food (e.g. vegetables, fruit and lean cuts of meat) and by taking the time to exercise your body as well as dress appropriately. While here on Earth, you represent God and are ambassador of God. I encourage you to be the best representation of God on the planet!!
Remember to treat your temple like what it is, a temple. Stop abusing your body! Treat the gift of life with reverence and respect. Honoring God by taking care of the precious gift of life he has given you. From this point forward, make it a point to eat healthy, exercise and be the best representation of God on the planet. You will be glad that you did.

All of this is a form of worshiping God and taking the time to love and like yourself.

Besides eating healthy, and exercising, take the time to pick something about yourself that you like. It can be something small, but whatever it is, its yours. Love it. Loving it means taking care of it and nurturing it. And after you done that, pick something else about you and so on until you have done your whole body. Remember at all times you are special. Be gentle with yourself!

I remember when I started the process of loving and liking me. The only thing that I could find about myself that I truly liked were my feet. So what did I do? I got some Victoria Secret Lotion Pear Glace. I would loving lotion my feet everyday. Then eventually my mother bought me a gold toe ring for one foot and I bought myself a gold toe ring for the other. My feet felt loved. I felt loved. Then I picked something else about myself I liked. My hands. I started to get manicures, and to keep my hands moisturized. My hands felt loved. I felt loved. I felt myself loving and liking me. Then I said to myself, this feels good. Let me do this to my whole body. And that's how I learned to love and like me. What works for you may be different. Maybe it its your eyes, or hair, your pretty smile, or ears. Whatever it is, start some where.

Just know this. Regardless of the lies you were told growing up or even are hearing now, you are very special and deserve to love and like yourself. You should be having a love affair with yourself because if no one else on the planet is showing you love, you are showing yourself love. In the bible it tells you tell to love your neighbor as you love yourself. Most people focus on the love thy neighbor part. The key to the scripture is
love thyself. You can't give love if you don't know love. You can only give like. And there is a difference between liking and loving. Liking makes you loyal to something or someone and you are using your brain to process these emotions. Loving makes you feel with your heart, mind, body and spirit. It is unconditional, it goes the extra mile and takes you into the type of love that God feels for you.

Jesus asked us to do one thing because he wanted us to feel what he felt for us. Jesus also loved himself. How do I know? In order to love us so well and unconditionally give of himself, he had to first love himself unconditionally. He could only give to us what he was able to give to himself. Do you want to see your life improve, relationships be better and you be happier? Make sure you are loving all of yourself as best you can. At the bottom of this blog I have included a self-inventory. This self-inventory is designed for you to reflect on the positive attributes that you have so that you can start the process of loving yourself, to think about your future and the legacy you want to leave behind.

Self-Inventory:
1. List Three Physical Attributes that you like about yourself.


2. List two personality traits that you are happy you have.


3. List three skills, talents or gifts that you have



4. If you had a t-shirt that described you, what would it say?


5. If you had the choice of doing one particular thing for the rest of your life, what would it be?


6. Close your eyes for a few moments and visualize something that would make you very happy at this time in your life, please write it down.


7.What is the one thing you really like about the person you call your best friend?


8. Do you possess the same quality that you listed in #7?


9. If you could instantly change one thing about yourself, what would it be and why?


10. What is the one thing people say to you, about how you impact them most frequently and do you agree or disagree? Why


11. What would you like people to remember most about you when it is all said and done? What is the legacy you want to leave behind?


From this formula, one legacy I hope you leave behind is that you did what Jesus Christ asked you to do: that you Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.And second Love your neighbor as yourself.

If you enjoyed this passage, I encourage you to get your copy of the book.This was an excerpt from my book Cyber Hustle available in my store at https://www.ladycharmaineday.com/store/p31/Cyber_Hustle_by_Lady_Charmaine_Day.html, on Amazon and Barnes and Noble.

I pray that you have been blessed by this blog post and that God has given you hope and peace of mind. Until next time, take care of yourself and stay special!!! 
Sincerely,
#LadyCharmaineDay
Pastor, Unlimited Help On-Line Ministry
www.ladycharmaineday.com