Hurt is passed on. Hurt people hurt people. You need to mourn things in order to move on. We tend to bury our pain versus dealing with it. We tend to give, be strong for everyone and afraid to show our weaknesses to people. Giving and doing for everyone else sometimes is a mask we put on. Not facing your own pain will make you self medicate. Putting the mask on takes energy. The mask can function even when you are in pain. The key to healing. Admit you are in pain. Face what has hurt you. Forgive the person and yourself for your role in it. Then choose to move pass it. Ask God to heal your body, mind and spirit from the trauma you have suffered. Accept his healing. Accept your forgiveness. And begin to build a new life. One that is not focused on the pain you have bared but one focused on the happy life you want to live and what that looks like for you.
By practicing forgiveness you are choosing to be healthy and happy.
Because note to self, the person(s) that hurt you is not thinking about you and what they did to you. They have moved on.
So let go and let God. Choose to forgive and choose to be healthy, and happy.
How do you do it? How do you be the bigger person? How do you turn the other cheek? In your own strength, it can be hard, but if you ask God to help you and you BELIEVE that God has helped you to forgive others, it becomes easy to pick up the phone and speak first. Or to be there for that person even though in the past they have hurt you. When asked how many times to forgive someone, Jesus said 77x7. Huge number. Is there someone in your life you need to forgive? Don't let another moment go by. Forgive them. Pray to God and forgive them. And move on.
Because when you forgive and truly let go and let God you will experience peace of mind that surpasses all understanding.
Pastor, Unlimited Help Online Ministry